Below we’ve rounded up 12 mostly serious, sometimes funny signs to tell if you’re actually ready to get married. If you’ve got them all, feel free to invest in these.
- You’re Not Still Searching for a Better better Half
This feels like a no-brainer, but please tell us you’ve deleted the dating apps, and ceased all communication with the cutie at the dog park if you’re considering “for better or for worse” with someone else. Speaking of better, instead of secretly wondering if he/she is the best you can do, focus on making your relationship the best it can be. (Spoiler: If you decide to get married, you’ll do this for the rest of your life.)
- You Love Yourself
You can’t be happy with somebody else until you’re happy with yourself. Sure, you can ask for your partner’s support when you’re upset, but as marriage coach Lesli Doares, author of Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage, says, “Being married is about joining two lives together, not giving up one. Being content in your own skin means you won’t be looking to your partner to fill voids in your life.”
- You Kind of Feel Like Superheros Together
Whether it’s tag-teaming a shopping list or assembling a particularly devilish piece of furniture, if there are moments when your dynamic duo could take on the world, this is a good sign. Peak coupled-om is all about teamwork and creative problem-solving. If you’re always ready to save the day together, you can start thinking about save the dates.
- You Start Seriously Relating to Love Songs You Once Called “Silly”
Oh, man. You used to make fun of those mushy-gushy ballads that described physical aching when a lover was away. But all of a sudden, bae takes a business trip and your chest is heavy, your insides are squirming, and you just cried at a gum commercial.
- You’ve Got More Than Your Significant Other on Your Side
Nobody knows you better than your friends and family, so if they’re telling you this is the finish line—GREAT! But if they’re bringing up red flags about you-know-who, it might be time to pump the breaks and consider those concerns.
- You Have No Problem Apologizing
Everyone effs up at some point, so if you’re taking on forever with someone, you must have the ability to look that partner in the face and say, “My bad.” And it has to be sincere! Here’s a tactful article on how to avoid a sorry excuse for a “sorry.”
- You Don’t Threaten to Leave When Discussions Get Heated
If something in your kitchen catches on fire, the absolute worst thing to do would be running out of the house, right? If you’re romantic counterpart is avoiding difficult discussions or throwing out menacing ultimatums that should sound some alarms. Marriage is about working as a team to put out the flames when they arise. There’s a reason firefighters are sexy.
- You Start Putting Him/Her Down as Your Emergency Contact
Before mom!? Book the venue. You’re ready.
- You’re Financially Stable(ish)
Oh, gross. We’re talking about money. Alas, it’s one of the top reasons couples report bickering with their partners. While you obviously don’t have to be Bill Gates–rich to get married, you do have to be fiscally responsible as a pair, and that means being able to openly communicate about all your joint and personal
- You’re Willing to Participate in Each Other’s Hobbies (Even if They Suck)
You never fancied yourself a fly fisher. But, if you went out and bought waders and a rod just because so-and-so loves steamed trout, you’re in deep, friend—and we don’t just mean in a cold river here.
- You Don’t Set Tests for One Another
“Why didn’t you text back within seven minutes?” “What if I take a mold of your thumbprint in your sleep and use it to unlock your iPhone? Will you have texted a super good-looking human who wasn’t me in the past 240 threads?” Giving your partner “chances” that is actually booby-traps reveal there’s deep insecurity surrounding this relationship, and it’s not ready for aisle talk yet. (Though, we do recommend regular talk ASAP.)
- You’re Still Discovering New Things about One Another
Periods of boredom and monotony are normal, but if you’re still uncovering happy surprises about each other after years of being together, that’s due to some conscious attempts at engagement on your part, and that’s encouraging for the future.